After 6+ decades, it has dawned on me that to handle an individual who seeks to take advantage of a pleasant and generous nature (me), to return the favor a.s.a.p. That is, if the individual is always borrowing in some sense, do it back and see how fast that person gives to your request with studied reluctance, even, on occasion, grudgingly. However, the final conclusion to this tiny essay, is the borrower, beggar, yes, beggar, backs off! from using you as a resource to acquiring whatever the person wants. Why? You do the same back -- if a "user" the person won't want to deal with you again. Easy to tell by their restrained reluctance to fulfill a simple request identical (or close) to the persons needy request.
No confrontations, lectures or otherwise need take place. Simply treat the person in the SAME manner they "humbly" ask of you -- or humbly BEG!
There may be a little anger in this message simply because it took me a long time to learn the way to prevent reoccurance.
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Great idea! It took you 6+ decades but you've passed the wisdom on and now I can enjoy it after only 3+ decades!
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